There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time for war and a time for peace…
(Ecclesiastes 3:1, 8b)
A time for war…
Prodigal children are in a spiritual battle. They don’t recognize it and sometimes even parents fail to see it. Our focus is oftentimes on the issues, when it should really be on fighting the war. But the only way to do this is on our knees. The greatest weapon we can wield against the enemy is prayer.
However, there are times we grow weary in the battle for prayer. It happens to even the greatest warriors. These are the times when we should turn to others for help. People who care and will intercede on behalf of our child.
War is ugly and it oftentimes results in some casualties. But it’s always, always worth the fight when it comes to the souls of our children. When it’s a time for war, don’t give up and don’t be afraid to enlist help.
A time for peace…
For the sake of peace, sometimes we have to call a truce with our prodigal child. We may never see eye-to-eye or understand each other’s ways. But we have to weigh whether the battle is worth the price. Relationships are the first to suffer harm, sometimes resulting in irreparable damage. It’s a high cost to pay just to prove a point or to be right.
I’ve learned that the less I say about an issue, the more likely it will come to a healthy resolution. It’s not my natural inclination, to remain silent—especially when I feel strongly about something. But a closed mouth is worth it when the end result is peace.