We’ve all experienced those moments—where it feels like we’ve failed as a mom (dad). If it’s not our own declaration, it’s voiced by our child. We are in fact the worst mom ever.
Some of them are literally momentary lapses in parenting. We forgot to sign the permission slip that’s due today. We accidentally threw away a piece of art. Our response was short and curt.
Other worst mom ever moments last a season. Days where we’ve gone without adequate sleep and we just don’t have the energy to handle something even as small as a cup of juice spilled on the floor. Longer seasons that seem to have no end in sight…clashing with a rebellious teen or a schedule with demands we can’t seem to meet.
It’s not the moments that make us feel like the worst mom ever. It’s the responses to those moments. Guilt and shame rack us when anger, impatience or indifference become our go-to…rather than grace, patience and concern. The longer we dwell on the negative responses, the more defined we become by them. And that’s what causes us to believe we’re the worst mom ever.
Let me just keep it real, mom (dad). It’s a lie. You are NOT the worst mom ever. Not. Even. Close.
Yes, we make mistakes. We lose our cool. We forget important matters. We run out of patience and sometimes we want to run away. Yet these are not the things that define us as a parent. No matter how often or how deeply we mess up, we are not the worst mom ever. No matter what our children say about our parenting, we are not the worst mom ever.
The only perfect “parent” is God. He is the Father of all and can teach us to learn from our mistakes. He can also help us get through those moments…providing strength, wisdom, understanding, grace and love. The task of parenting isn’t an easy one, but it’s a blessed one. He handpicked you to raise those children, so he won’t leave you to do it alone. Trust in Him. Seek Him. Be filled by Him.