There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to kill and a time to heal…
(Ecclesiastes 3:1, 3a)
A time to kill…
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Don’t kill the messenger.” In other words, don’t blame the person who delivers the information. But there is a time to kill the messenger…when it comes to the enemy of our soul. 2 Corinthians 12:7 talks about a messenger of Satan who was responsible for Paul’s thorn in the side. Although we don’t know what that thorn represented, we can be sure it wasn’t something good.
Satan whispers all kinds of messages to our heart when a child is far away from God. These messages instill fear, worry, bitterness and an assortment of other issues that take our eyes off God. Here’s the thing we have to remember…the voice of God should be louder than the voice of Satan.
It’s time to kill the messenger of Satan, who tries to convince us that nothing will ever change…our child will never return to the Lord…we have messed our kids up beyond repair…their sins are too great…and so on. How do we combat these lies? With the truth of God’s Word, soaking it in every chance we get!
A time to heal…
Oftentimes relationships are damaged when a child is far from God. This can happen with parents, siblings, friends and others. While we can’t control the response of others—including our child—we can do our part to work toward healing. How that looks and what it means to your situation is something only God can reveal. As always, prayer is the key.
When a child is making unsafe, unhealthy or unwise decisions…animosity, bitterness, anger and an assortment of other emotions can become a dark cloud over us. One of the struggles I’ve battled with is reacting to my child and/or situations, rather than responding. There’s a difference.
Emotions tend to be the driving force of reactions, whereas logic tends to be the driving force of responses. I can’t tell you the number of times God has brought this verse to mind: In your anger do not sin.” (Ephesians 4:26)—which has so often been a losing battle for me. As a result, the relationship with my child has suffered. At times I thought it was beyond repair, yet God has been faithful in bringing healing to so many areas. Much work is to be done but there is hope!
Healing takes time. It requires selflessness and an abundance of grace. And it can’t be done without guidance from the Lord.