You’re never going to break that habit. It’s useless. What’s the point of trying? I’ve messed up too many times. She’ll never forgive me. Clearly, I wasn’t cut out to parent. That tongue will never be controlled.
These are just some of the things I’ve said (or say) to myself. These are the inner conversations that take place…statements not voiced out loud but believed just the same. We all have things we say to ourselves, beliefs unspoken—yet still heard by our God. He knows us intimately. He’s fully aware of the dialogue that takes place within the mind. And how those words become beliefs transferred to the heart.
When that happens, discouragement and disappointment settles in. Hopelessness makes its abode. Oftentimes this turns into negative outward actions. We may resort to anger, self-condemnation, guilt, giving up or rebellion (because what’s the point of trying to act godly).
We can’t always stop the inner dialogue that takes place. But we can certainly change the course of our thoughts. One of the best ways to conquer those negative things we say to ourselves is to speak God’s truth out loud.
For instance, “I’m never going to break that habit” becomes “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13). “It’s useless” becomes “Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him” (1 Corinthians 2:9). Or “Nothing good will ever happen” becomes “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11)
It’s changing what we say to ourselves. And the best way to do that is to know God’s Word. Find scripture that applies to the negative things you’re saying to yourself. Read the Word. Study the Word. Memorize the Word. This will change not only your inner dialogue but what you believe about yourself.